Spring Clean Your Love Life!
As the temperatures rise and social gatherings move from indoor soirées by the fire to cookouts outside, spring fever for love begins to blossom. But before you can reap the blossoming benefits, it’s critical that you do a “spring cleaning” of your love life. While it is important to ensure that your home is cleaned to spring’s perfection, it is imperative that you execute a personal Spring cleaning of any emotional baggage you may have accumulated. For those of us still harboring former flames and old emotional cobwebs, it’s time...
read moreHow’s Your Sexy?
Sexy is a state of intellect and individual freedom confident women have earned! As women we want and need to be desired. This starts with the personal connection a woman has with herself from the top of her head to the soles of her feet. I like to think that most strong sensual women have the power and ability to be comfortable in their own bodies, giving them the authorization to be open to discovering their own sensuality and sexuality. Contrary to that asserted by our sex obsessed society, it’s not a woman’s age, beauty, or...
read moreSexual Fusion!
It took a long time to write this article. While the wonderful subject of sex and sensuality should be easy to talk about and share, it’s still taboo in the United States. Sometimes it can be viewed as bad and outright nasty. As I took a few days to think on it, I began to do research on Kama Sutra. Now in my own education, I always thought that Kama Sutra were sexual positions of pleasure. But really it’s more than that – It can deeply connect your partner. According to the Wikipedia Kama Sutra is a guide of sexual intercourse...
read more“See the Change, Keep the Hope!”
As not only a woman, but also a black woman, I have to overcome adversity on a regular basis. The other day as I was applying for a summer internship, the director over the program informed me that no African-American had ever applied to the program. This information caused me to pause and wonder, why? The answer is simple. For years people of color have been oppressed, especially direct descendants from the motherland. Slavery has created an inferiority complex within the race that has haunted us. Even after abolishment, people of color were...
read more“Fight for What You Want!”
It was late May and I just returned to the United States after a five month study abroad in Paris, France. Although the experience was unforgettable, it begun to dawn on me how hard it would be to find an internship position for the upcoming summer. I applied for countless positions while abroad; pleading for Skype Interviews and religiously following-up on e-mails sent to various employers, but had no luck, or so I thought. The first night back in America, I laid on my bed and went through the messages that slowly found their way into my...
read more“Is Safety an Underestimated Relational Commodity?”
If I were to ask what the single most important aspect of a relationship is, without hesitation I would respond, “safety.” If you were ever the fat kid in school, you know exactly where I am coming from. I lived so much of my life hiding, afraid to just be me. I spent mental and emotional energy simply navigating through relationships, hoping to find a place where I could just breathe and be me. As a kid I never knew what it was like to feel completely safe; safe with my heart, my wounds, my dreams, my failures, and my fears. I allowed...
read more“The Fairer, The Better: Is Lighter Skin the Black Man’s Complexion of Choice?”
Just the other day I went to support the Broadway play “The Mountaintop” starring Samuel L. Jackson and Angela Bassett. As I sat in the audience, I was entertained by the dynamic acting of the two cast members. Without a doubt, the play was a great success; however, something in particular caught my attention. In the play, Jackson portrayed Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and Angela Bassett played a vivacious, southern maid named Camae. A scene came about where the discussion of King’s wife came up and Camae pondered what Coretta Scott...
read more“Today, I Forgive Others and I Forgive Myself!”
I recently saw the movie “The Kids Are All Right” with Annie Benning and Julianne Moore. The story is about a lesbian couple who were going through challenges with their relationship and the young adult children they were raising. One scene in the movie is quite compelling. Julianne Moore comes clean to her wife and two kids about an affair she had with the children’s biological father, a sperm donor. It was emotional, awkward, uncomfortable, and hurtful. The story ends with the wife having to forgive her wife. Though it took a lot of...
read more“A Closer Look!”
“A Productive Relationship is a willingness to learn the art of compromise.” Humanity has misinterpreted one of our most valuable allies in creation. We have done so by labelingour beautiful earth as violent and untamed. Nature is designed to utilize only what is necessary to sustain itself and is equipped with the intelligence to discern what is necessary for living in harmony with ALL of life’s expressions. For example, within the animal kingdom the lion consumes what is needed for survival, the fowls rise early to obtain their...
read more“I Love My Boss. Correction: I am IN Love with My Boss!”
You know the episode. Coy and infectious smiles, attentive listening, shared looks and a warm “easygoingness” that has you thinking about every interaction. ‘“You did a great job on the titles project”. What did he just say? What does that mean? The exchange is always cordial with an undertone of flirtatiousness. Was that flirting? Or was he just being polite and complimentary? When he came around my desk to get a better look at what I was referring to on my computer screen during our discussion, I wondered did he want to be...
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