Posted by Sakia on Feb 9, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
If I were to ask what the single most important aspect of a relationship is, without hesitation I would respond, “safety.” If you were ever the fat kid in school, you know exactly where I am coming from. I lived so much of my life hiding, afraid to just be me. I spent mental and emotional energy simply navigating through relationships, hoping to find a place where I could just breathe and be me. As a kid I never knew what it was like to feel completely safe; safe with my heart, my wounds, my dreams, my failures, and my fears. I allowed...
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Posted by Sakia on Feb 9, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
Just the other day I went to support the Broadway play “The Mountaintop” starring Samuel L. Jackson and Angela Bassett. As I sat in the audience, I was entertained by the dynamic acting of the two cast members. Without a doubt, the play was a great success; however, something in particular caught my attention.
In the play, Jackson portrayed Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and Angela Bassett played a vivacious, southern maid named Camae. A scene came about where the discussion of King’s wife came up and Camae pondered what Coretta Scott...
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Posted by Sakia on Feb 1, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
I recently saw the movie “The Kids Are All Right” with Annie Benning and Julianne Moore. The story is about a lesbian couple who were going through challenges with their relationship and the young adult children they were raising. One scene in the movie is quite compelling. Julianne Moore comes clean to her wife and two kids about an affair she had with the children’s biological father, a sperm donor. It was emotional, awkward, uncomfortable, and hurtful. The story ends with the wife having to forgive her wife. Though it took a lot of...
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Posted by Sakia on Jan 31, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
You know the episode. Coy and infectious smiles, attentive listening, shared looks and a warm “easygoingness” that has you thinking about every interaction.
‘“You did a great job on the titles project”. What did he just say? What does that mean? The exchange is always cordial with an undertone of flirtatiousness. Was that flirting? Or was he just being polite and complimentary?
When he came around my desk to get a better look at what I was referring to on my computer screen during our discussion, I wondered did he
want to be...
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Posted by Sakia on Jan 26, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
I am so excited about 2012. Not that 2011 was a bad year. It had its challenges and disappointments but there were also those great moments…the baptism of my son and getting my iPad just to name a few. But just the possibilities of 2012 bring a smile to my face. I’m sure you’re thinking every New Year is filled with possibilities. What makes this year any different? Well, this is the year I’ve decided to approach the possibilities differently. Here are three guidelines that will make your and my 2012...
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Posted by Sakia on Jan 6, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
During the month of December, everyone gets a chance to come together for the holidays. It’s a time where families and friends can laugh with each other, make cookies in the kitchen, build a fire, play outside in the snow, watch movies or sports (the NBA finally!), eat a great meal and take a good nap. That time of year just feels good. Some may even think “This feels so right and restful and I don’t want the feeling to end.”
January follows with even more promise. Without hesitation, January is the time for making goals and...
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Posted by Sakia on Jan 6, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
We always celebrate the onset of a new year! It’s new and typically brings reflection on the past, optimism, positive thoughts, and even exhilaration for a fresh start. And, we ask ourselves: “What should I do differently this year?”; “What can I do better?”; “How can I be fulfilled and happy?”. In the New Year, we begin by setting resolutions which is admirable but sometimes not sustained. With the momentum of the holiday gone and real life back in full swing, we tend to abandon our resolutions by the end of January.
As you...
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Posted by Sakia on Jan 6, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
I see 2012 as the year to “Befriend Faithfulness.” If you want to “Make it Happen” this year you have to do something different than you’ve done all of the previous years. You must remain faithful to the vision! Many of us don’t have problems with setting goals, rather we struggle with remaining faithful and pressing through when the fire isn’t burning as high, our drive isn’t as strong, and our internal motivation has weakened. If you were honest with yourself, you probably don’t need to set new resolutions; you need to...
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Posted by Sakia on Jan 6, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
Upon arriving for the holiday stay at my parent’s home, I walked into my room and immediately, a sense of who I am returned. The feeling I got was not about my childhood pictures, pageant titles, or my old cheerleading uniforms in the closet. It came from the core of my being, and my existence as a product of my community. It was not about a mere identity, but about the feeling of knowing and accepting all facts about myself.
Not too long ago, I found a picture of a quote among the many “picture quotes” floating around Facebook: “You...
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Posted by Sakia on Jan 6, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments
Having resolutions past the second week of January can sometimes be as hard as creating and sticking to a financial budget. For some of us, whether it be losing ten pounds, finishing the Business Plan that’s still in draft form or saving enough money to take a much needed trip, gets lost in the shuffle of our daily routine. Why is it we can’t seem to maintain our year long goals? We write them down and some of us go to the extent of creating vision boards, so what are we doing wrong?
Well, maybe we’re not doing anything wrong. Maybe we...
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